7 Signs You’re Actually an Introvert, Not Shy

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When the word introvert is mentioned, most people think of someone shy, overly quiet, and someone who prefers alone time. Although introverts may have some of these traits, they do not reflect their personality. Introverts may feel drained from being around many people for an extended period but aren’t afraid of people.

Here are seven signs you are not shy; you’re just introverted.

1. You Prefer Deep, Meaningful Conversations as Opposed to Small Talk

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Unlike extroverts, who can engage in small talk or conversations about anything, introverts prefer deep and meaningful conversations.  You’d rather discuss useful ideas, explore personal experiences, or share your feelings about something or someone.  Introverts prefer conversations that add value and often leave when there’s excessive small talk.

2. You Are Selective About Where You Spend Time and With Whom

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If you are selective about the people and places you spend time, you are more of an introvert and not shy.  You’d rather make meaningful social connections and spend time in places where you are comfortable.  You’ll be more selective with the events you attend and avoid being in several social gatherings.

3. You Love Your Alone Time but Don’t Mind Occasional Outings

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Contrary to popular misconception, introverts are not antisocial. They are comfortable being alone and love solitude. Unlike shyness, which involves a fear of being judged by others, introversion is more of a preference for some alone time to recharge, self-reflect, or relax.

While you may enjoy your time alone and prefer your space to recharge your brain, you don’t mind occasional outings. You’ll often alternate between being alone and being social.

4. Your Social Battery Quickly Drains When Around a Lot of People.

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Although introverts may occasionally hang out with a group of people, their social battery quickly drains when around a lot of people. You could be at a networking event, birthday party, or concert. Still, you’ll avoid going out for another month, weeks, or even days to recharge your social battery and feel ready to interact with people again.

Forcing yourself to go on these occasions makes it difficult to have a good time or make a solid connection, and you’d rather wait until you’re ready to return to social interaction.

5. You Prefer Quality and Tight Friendship

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As an introvert, you’d rather keep your small, current circle of friends than try to make new friends. You’re comfortable with your closely-knit friendship and would rather avoid the awkwardness of talking to new people. At parties, you’ll go with a close friend you already know instead of interacting with and talking to new people.

6. You’re Observant and Mindful of Your Surroundings

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Introverts can sometimes be referred to as overthinkers or overanalyzers. They are constantly aware and vigilant of their surroundings. Most of them are picky about where they hang out with people and will analyze every little detail of their surroundings.

7. You’d Rather Write or Text and Not Speak

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As an introvert, you are more comfortable expressing yourself in writing than your thoughts. You’ll prefer journaling, writing books, or texting instead of phone conversations. Verbal communication is draining for most introverts, and they like other ways of communication that can be done in solitude.

Most people have the wrong idea about introverts, often thinking they are shy, don’t like talking, and are anti-social. However, that’s not true. Introverts prefer deep relationships, find comfort in solitude, have limited small talk, and enjoy deeper, meaningful conversations.

If you resonate with the above signs, you may be more of an introvert and not shy.  Understanding your personality can lead to greater self-awareness and help you achieve more fulfillment in your social and personal life.

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